The person who I am is not the person you think I am.
That pretty much says it all, but it’s a fact of life that I believe.
Trying to align perception and reality is a tiring task. So, I have chosen to focus my energy as much as I can on being me and not trying to shape who others think that is.
I am 6’2″ and weigh close to 300 pounds, I have a loud speaking voice and when I believe in something strongly I will hold that belief until someone convinces me it is wrong.
That gets interpreted by some as me being an arrogant bully. That’s their perception and they have the right to believe that.
I was told by my first professional mentor that if you’re not trying to eliminate the need for your job or the job’s of the people on your team, you’re probably not doing the right thing. The ideal outcome is that if you work that way that you will increase you and your team’s value to the organization through the ability of your team to contribute incrementally to the organization.
The less than ideal outcome is that you end up eliminating your own job or your team’s jobs. Unfortunately that might be what happens, but it doesn’t make it the wrong thing to do.
This gets interpreted by some as me not having respect for the work they do or the value they currently bring. I have spent a ton of hours explaining to people that is not the case and that the intent is to increase their value constantly.
Not everyone sees that and some don’t want that because they are happy doing what they currently do.
I’ll continue to invest the time explaining that to people because I care. Regardless of what I say, some people’s perception of me will never change.
Some people know me for the person who I think I am.
I think I am a physically big individual with a metaphorically big heart who cares a lot about what other people think.
I really want people to be happy.
I like to debate, but hate to argue.
I am driven to make everything I touch better.
I love my family and friends first, my work is a distant second and myself a close third.
So maybe who I think I am is who you think I am, but I never percieve that to be the case in anyone.
That may be my unfortunate reality.