(Now that this is a blog for both kids I apologize in advance for the dual pronoun usage. Get used to it folks :))
So the expression of getting cold feet is usually associated with brides and grooms before a wedding. Which I never had with your mother, have I ever mentioned she is AWESOME!!!!
However, this post has nothing to do with it. This is a lesson in humility, really listening, trust and evidence that I am not perfect. Not that I really needed more evidence that I am not perfect, because no one and I really mean no one is.
So it’s been three years since big brother / you started hockey, and for three years I have been tying his skates. For the last six months however, I had been listening to him complain about having cold feet to the point where at times he came off the ice and had to sit out of practice. It wasn’t consistent so I just kept blowing it off as him / you being tired and he / you always has had a tendency to be more sensitive when tired.
Well as luck would have it one person says to me, “His skates are probably too small.” We go through the process of trying to figure that out, finally taking the sole out of the skate and realizing that his / your toes were at least a half an inch over the sides of the sole on the front and the sides. A trip to Total Hockey (Note to Self: I should be an investor there.), a brand new pair of wide width and heat moldable skates and fast forward to the next practice.
He / you were tired from a long weekend, were not paying attention, came off the ice almost crying complaining about cold feet. It got to the point that he / you were just picking fights on the ice and were so not paying attention that he / you almost knocked your coach, who was on the ice wearing shorts, on his butt.
Another trip to Total Hockey and $45 in neoprene and insulated skates later, he / you go two or three practices without complaining about cold feet. Problem finally solved, but then all of a sudden one more practice with cold feet when he / you are tired, but he / you powers through.
Fast forward to a practice session at Total Hockey of Minnesota (not the same as Total Hockey) and thinking I am helping one of your friends put on his skates, but he comes off the ice almost crying about how cold his feet are and he / you do the same. Enter Google.
I Googled, “Why are my sons feet cold when he wears his hockey skates.” Interestingly, more than one article mentions tying skates too tight as the issue. Enter next practice and I don’t crank the laces on your skates and his / your feet have hockey stink (that is an actual aroma and not something you want to smell, but at this point it was great.) After a few practices with the fancy socks he / you revert back to wearing whatever kind of socks you have on your feet and there have not been any cold feet issues for over a month.
At the end of the day, why didn’t I listen sooner and why did it take me tying another kids skates to tight and cutting off the circulation in his feet to do a simple Internet search. I had made up my mind on what the problem was and determined the problem was not me but him / you and I was wrong.
It’s a hard lesson for people, including myself, to learn; but sometimes you are the problem. Sometimes you have to look at yourself first and ask, “Is it something I am doing wrong that is causing this to happen?,” and some would say that is always the first thing you should do. I don’t know about that, but I hope I do more often moving forward.